I know how it is to get your heart broken. It’s painful, confusing, hopeless, and a downright self-worth killer! By the way, I’m no saint either because I also broke other people’s hearts. These acts aren’t done out of spite or revenge, but I believe they happen because hurting people hurt other people.
Not all heartbreaks come from a failed romance.
It may come from your parent, friend, boss, or just whoever.
Whatever the case is, this message is for you.
I am a firm believer that every girl deserves to be like that Beautiful Princess in one of those epic love stories in which the prince risks everything to win her heart, and be her champion! I also believe all men can be that Prince - a man who will lead, protect, provide and love her princess. What I’m talking about is not an illusion. It’s the truth and it lies in the inner recesses of our being. (If you need more convincing, I urge you to read “Wild at Heart” for men and “Captivating” for women by John Eldredge, as well as “Fight” by Craig Groeschel). If you want to be that Prince or Princess… All you have to do is tell yourself that.
Every Heartbreak Leads To A Breakthrough!
Let me describe to you how this so called breakthrough will happen. These are basically stages on how people heal from bleeding broken hearts.
This is the time when you feel different kinds of emotions. It’s very confusing because there will be jolts of hope that you’ll get back together, to nights wherein you’ll drown yourself in misery, cry in front of your most trusted friends or lock yourself inside your room.
The first stage is totally tiring because your emotions fluctuate so much that you actually won’t know what to feel anymore. And you also temporarily stop from becoming a properly functioning human being.
I have learned in NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming) that our brains work like a hard drive- 1000 Terabytes worth of memory. It usually responds to a high emotional event. That’s why when you remember about your ex, you usually think about your happy times or that dreadful moment when he/she broke your heart!
The grieving stage totally sucks, but it something we need to go through in order to get healed. Don’t worry, breakthrough is coming!
This is where the blame game happens! You get mad at yourself and then start thinking about what ifs. What if you were extra patient, what if you were less jealous, and then you eventually shift to I hate you, I hate you, I hate you!
You get frustrated with small things, with people, work, even happy couples that you see.
This stage is very dangerous because most people get stuck here for a looooong time. They usually don’t show any angry behavior, but they’re boiling inside.
Tip: During this stage, talk to trustworthy people who could help you move forward, or be a part of a connect group in church.
Honestly, you need big courage to overcome this stage! You have to really want that joy that comes from having a healed heart! Don’t worry, breakthrough is coming!