It was 2:45PM, traffic was terrible, and I had to quickly navigate my way through a bunch of narrow roads. Viv and I were on our way to the wedding of our friends: Andreus and Love.
Their love story began as soon as they first met. It was love at first sight. Even though they won’t admit it, I know for sure that they were immediately drawn to each other.
They constantly shared wonderful moments with each other, both big and small, which made them very good friends. This friendship only made their secret attraction to each other even stronger. This love story of theirs is like yummy paella; it took a while to cook but was totally worth the wait in the end.
Love sometimes starts with a smile. Sometimes it starts with friendship. Sometimes it starts as enemies. Sometimes… it starts with no spark at all.
When the moment that Andreus gets to pull back the veil over Love’s head and sees his new wife looking at him, ready to be swept off her feet by her prince charming, they slowly lean towards each other and magic happened. They kiss for the first time in three years and the whole church rose with shouts and cheers for their love.
You see, Andreus made a bold and courageous move to choose not to kiss Love again unless it would be at the altar, in front of a priest, their loved ones, and God on their wedding day. This move made that moment even more beautiful. They inspired me to do the same and save my next kiss for Viv on our own wedding day.
Don’t you think it’s just amazing? Andreus and Love met each other at different points of their lives, but somehow everything fell into place, and today they are living their happily ever after story.
Now, let me ask you… Are you currently in-love? Or are you looking for love? Or are you currently moving on from a failed love story?
When I was 13-years old, my mom told me that I shouldn’t take girls seriously and that I shouldn’t fall in-love until I’m older.
I know a lot of people who try their best to not fall in-love with just anyone. But that’s the tricky thing about love; it’s something you just can’t predict nor control. Sometimes you fall in-love with somebody right away, and sometimes you get rejected a number of times but eventually end up marrying each other.
So, when does this love formula really happen? When is the right time to find your one true love? Which part of our lives can are we supposed to fall in-love?
Let’s dissect together these different stages of life and see when the best time to fall in love is.
1. High School
My cousin fell in-love when she was just in high school. Some people would think that high school love is not “real love” and that it wouldn’t last. More than a decade later, she married her “high school love.”
High school emotions are one of the strongest because we don’t really understand what’s happening in the world. Our raging hormones make us believe that what we feel will be forever.
Most people who enter relationships when they are in high school eventually break up. But, like my cousin, there are also some people who stand the test of time and stay together for life.
My friends, Tabs and Alica, met each other while they were in college. They met each other in class, and the story was exciting because they saw each other almost every day. They eventually became friends, and one day Tabs won the heart of Alica. They stayed together even after college.
On the exact day of their 10th year together, they got married. Today, they have a beautiful daughter, who also happens to be my goddaughter.
College sweethearts are exciting because for a lot of people, college love is their first real experience of love. It’s during this time when they learn to sacrifice for the other person and totally work on their relationship.
3. Young Professional
Usually, when “college love” isn’t for them, some people experience their second love right at the start of their careers. This is exciting because both persons are already working. This means that they have enough freedom to see each other whenever they want, and of course they now have their own money to share experiences together.
My friends Mik and Carla met each other when they were both starting off with their careers. They were both working hard, and they were sharing their successes with each other. After five years of being together, they both finally said “I do.”
Meeting someone after college is nice because you discover the “real world” together. You meet people from totally different backgrounds. Their experiences might be different from yours, but in the end, both of you have experiences to share.
4. Post-Quarter-Life Crisis
I met Viv during a very weird time of my life. I was going through my quarter-life crisis when we became friends. I’m glad though that we focused on being friends first until that one day that I was rejuvenated and came out a man who finally knew what he wanted.
I tried my best to stop myself from falling in-love with Viv but I couldn’t stop myself. I know that she’s my one true love, and I hope one day (soon) that I’ll be able to start a future together with her.
This season is nice because we are purified; we start fully living because we already know what we want to do with our lives. We start to really mature and we are on the way to pursue our passion and life purpose.
5. Booming Career
Ed and Rica met each other when they were already in their late 30s. They were both successful in their careers but a number of failed relationships made both of them think twice about their relationship.
The problem with love is it comes knocking at your door, and you try to keep it out, it will break down the walls of your heart and just make you fall again.
Ed and Rica eventually started dating, and they got married two years ago. Their story made me realize that you are never too old fall in-love.
A lot of ladies are afraid of this because they think that they’re getting older and that love isn’t going to come knocking on their door anymore.
Some people focus too much on their careers, while some just can’t catch a break, they just can’t meet the right person.
The story of Ed and Rica affirms that love can work its magic no matter how old you are.
SO… “Perfect Time?”
Come to think of it, there isn’t really a “right time” to fall in-love. When love comes to your life, it arrives like a tidal wave that will change the whole landscape of your life.
Friends, always guard your heart because you should only give your heart to the perfect person at the perfect time.
When the right kind of love comes, the wisest thing to do is just ride it and let it blossom by itself; don’t force anything. The best kind of love is something that is not manipulated but just naturally (and magically) draws two people together.
NOTE: If you feel that you are in a relationship with the wrong person, no matter how much memories you share or time you’ve invested with each other, you deserve someone better. God has a better plan for your heart.
Take care of love. Enjoy love. Let love make you a better person.
The Best Is Yet To Come,
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