“This message will self-destruct in 5 seconds…”

Ethan Hunt walks away and then that gadget will burn itself to bits and then the movie intro will show with theme music of tunt tunt tunt tununununt tun tunt will play.

That’s one of the most iconic scenes in the movie franchise of Mission Impossible, and some James Bond films as well.

Spy movies are fun to watch because of all of those nifty gadgets like the self-destruct mechanism that you see in Mission Impossible.

The sad thing is that, self-destruction doesn’t only happen in movies, and not only gadgets as well, but to a lot of people as well.

Here’s an example.

Joey is a very insecure man and he’s been dealing with this issue for many years already, and he’s been with a lot of girlfriends, at first he seems like the perfect gentleman but as the relationship deepens, the girl finds out that the Joey is sucking the life out of them, they feel that the longer their relationship gets, their wrinkles show faster than they’re supposed to.

He shares his painful story about how his dad hurt him when he was young, plus how his trust and wounds deepen even more because of each failed romantic relationship in his life.

You see, some people share their stories because they are opening themselves to healing, but not Joey. He hates the pain of the memory, but he enjoys the attention and pity that is given to him by each girl that’s why he sinks deeper and deeper into the abyss of negativity and depression.

Yes, there are people in our lives who have wounded us deeply, but there’s also another dimension that I want you know, we have a big capacity to abuse ourselves by wallowing in the pain we go through.

We are all victims of self-inflicted wounds, or self-abuse in one way or the other. Today, I’m going to help heal the pain by guiding you through 4 steps that will make your life better!

  1. Create an accountability group

    Find two people that you can trust, their role is to listen and talk to you. These friend should not just cry with you but they are true enough to confront you if you are being a toxic person. They will tell you the painful truth because they love you and care for you.

    Also, make sure that the circle is not too big because the more people that know about your hardships, the more complicated it gets

  2. Write forgiveness letters

    List down people who have hurt you from small hurts to big hurts, write forgiveness letters to them even if you don’t feel like it. Keep writing them until you embrace complete healing.

    After you have forgiven people that have hurt, finish this practice by writing forgiveness letters to yourself. You’ll be surprised at how challenging this will be, but it will also be the most rewarding.

  3. Join a ministry

    There’s a reason why God created the church and ministry, so that hurting people can make it a safe heaven.

    Find a ministry like Feast Greenhills, attend there and be join a small group. You’ll be surprised by how God’s miracle can make your life better.

  4. Hit the reset button

    Simple, you have been in world of pain for a long time. Now, it’s time to take a break. Clean your hurts by creating space with the things, memories and people that remind you of the pain.

    Gather strength in isolation through the presence of Jesus, and slowly stand up so you can move forward.

    Start fresh, by moving to a new place, changing jobs, going on a retreat, travel the world, or whatever will work for you.

    In the bible it says, Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” –Joshua 1:9

Lastly, open yourself to God’s miracle because He’s the true source of all peace and healing.

Btw, bring someone who needs to hear this message to Feast Greenhills.

The Best Is Yet To Come,

JPaul Hernandez

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