The past few weeks, the Feast Builders and I have been going through a rigorous training on Strengths Finder 2.0 by Tom Rath. The goal of it is to be able to coach people by finding their strengths.


It’s a really cool study because it really marks your unique strengths – so unique that there is only a similarity of 1 in 33 Million.


My strengths are:

  1. Maximizer
  2. Arranger
  3. Responsibility
  4. Futuristic
  5. Learner


I was happy about it, and then I realized my strengths are all about, influential leadership, executive leadership, and most of all strategic leadership. On the other hand, the other builders, like Jan Silan and Monching Bueno, had strengths such as Positivity, Empathy, Includer, Harmony, which speaks about a relational leadership.


It’s really nothing but I couldn’t help feel insecure. I thought that maybe I’m not a good Feast Builder because even if I love people, relationships are not my best strength.


This thought bothered me for many days, which made me feel inadequate, insecure, and terrible. I compared myself to my co-leaders and even my friends.


But then during the servants retreat last August 26-27, God made His presence felt in my life. You know what He said? The Lord told me “I chose you not because you are good or because you are bad. I am God and I chose you because I love you. I chose to give you unique strengths and skills that will give Glory to my Name. I chose you because I wanted to choose you.”


I started to cry because Jesus reminded me that I never really had to prove myself to God.


My dear friends, our problem is that our world is filled with lies. We think that if we become as thin as a model, we’ll be happy. We think that if we become richer than our friends, we’ll be happy. We feel that if we’re in a relationship with someone, we’ll be happier. But it is during these times that we sin and fall down.


            The main destroyer of our lives is our self; we destroy our beautiful design by comparing ourselves to others. When we see the beautiful trip that our friends post on Facebook, or when we celebrate the new promotion of our classmate who was lazier than us, or when people younger than you are becoming more successful, and become envious or angry, we are only hurting ourselves.


For a certain part, we are happy for our friends, but sometimes there’s bitterness in our heart that eats us up. We feel low about ourselves because we compare ourselves not to popular people, but those people we say we love and those who are simply around us.


Yes, I have my moments of insecurity and days that I just feel down. Sometimes I feel dizzy because the world gave me one big punch that I have difficulty recovering from.


I am here not because of my own strength, or because I’m cool. I am here because of the truth. The truth is that God is love! I’m here because I am renewed every morning with God’s refreshing love. The rivers of heaven give me the water of life that detoxifies all the toxic thoughts and feelings inside me.


Friend, I invite you to only compare yourself with yourself. Be your own benchmark of success. I invite you to beat your own record. The people around you are not competition, instead they are people like you who are just trying to get better, and it’s your role to help them in your very own way.


Find true joy by living your best life today.


The Best Is Yet To Come,


JPaul Hernandez


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